Mashware

We often hear people taunting about others giving 'Mashware', especially 'Muft k Mashware'.

Generally, we give advises either to our loved ones, or if we are expert or have experienced something in life and want to aware people. Also it's human nature to talk about experiences and expertise; everyone does that. For example, an experienced mother will keep on sharing tips to a mother of a newly born. Or an electrical engineer will definitely point out the errors of electricity in your house.

I believe there is nothing wrong in giving 'Mashware'. But, we need to keep in mind some points.

First of all, why all of a sudden 'Mashware' have become tormenting? It's because of vast availability of communication. When there were no media or whatsapp, our interaction was very limited; let's say 10 people a day; so even if 2-3 people out of those 10 people gave 'Mashware', it was considered nice instead of uncomfort. No one will travel from one place to another place just to give a Mashwara.

But today, we have communication on social media and whatsapp. For example if someone fell prey to Corona, hundreds of well wishers will message or call; they will pray for you and will advice you remedies. Now if 100 people or even 50 people will give you 'Mashware', it will sound a lot.

We should be patient; we can never be a perfect human being; we need advises till our last breath; closing ears is own lose.

I understand that not everyone is a well wisher and some people actually taunt disguised as an advice; but remember, in order to enjoy the rain, we have to deal with the mud.

I know sometimes listening to too much advice makes us ludicrous, but it's ok, like I said above, it's because everyone has communication access. Most of the people want good for us.

Sometimes we do something intentionally wrong for experimenting purposes; so if one looks at it, he will naturally stop us; instead of giving remarks such as ABE JAA NA KAAM KR APNA; we should thank and explain that we are purposely doing this for an experiment or as a Jugad due to lack of resources.

I am fat, every time I meet someone، I will get an advice to follow a particular remedy for weight loss; I never mind, in fact, I am grateful. I know who is genuinely concerned for me and who is mocking.

My principal is, " Izzet se sb ki suno, and apni kro "

Because we can't follow every advice. We will get at least a dozen different advices  which can't be followed altogether, so the person giving advice should also keep this in mind that he is not the only one; it should be an advice, not an order, unless you are confident that someone is actually going to hurt himself with his actions.

Also, one should look at the person's mood, place, circumstance before giving advice. HOW we say is more impact full than WHAT we say.

Don't be harsh on someone who advises sincerely, otherwise a day will come when your ears will be desperate for advice but there won't be any. Not all advises are sugar to the ear, but we do realize later in life that those bitter advises and warnings were actually important in a longer run.

And besides, it's not like we don't want Mashware; we all do but we focus only on materialistic benefits; we will be angry with someone who established a good business but didn't give us any 'Muft ka Mashwara'.