Shahroz Sabzwari is not the only culprit

By this time, you must be well aware of the entire Shahroz Sabzwari and Sadaf Kanwal scene. Both got married apparently yesterday after Shahroz divorced Syra some time ago. Now, we don’t know what exactly happened; whether Shahroz was actually cheating or there were some differences between the couple that led to a divorce. Nobody knows but that’s not what I want to discuss.

If we go by the word around, Shahroz cheated while in marriage which of course lead to the divorce. Apparently, Shahroz was having extra marital affair with Sadaf Kanwal.

Now, almost everyone is bashing Shahroz, which is totally ok if we presume that he actually cheated; I am in no way defending him for his wrong actions. But, it is a common assumption, heavily influenced by media and social media that it is only a man who cheats and a man should be solely responsible. It is a common notion that men gets free pass and it’s only the women who face punishment all the time. Well, it isn’t the complete truth.

I am not denying women issues but I have said it multiple times that more than a gender problem, such issues are power issues. A powerful man can easily get away with whatever he does and so does a woman of power. It’s not true that men always get away; many times men are more humiliated than women and in fact, many times men face wrong accusations which are so hard to prove.

I myself is an example; the woman who accused me of something which I didn’t do had all the support with her; her tears were powerful enough to prove her innocence while no one even gave me a slightest of benefit of doubt nor I was given an ounce of opportunity to defend myself. My life was turned upside down and my image throughout my family was tarnished and I still have to live with that stain.

Coming back to Shahroz, if he cheated, he is a culprit; I am not trying to prove him innocent but he isn’t solely responsible. Sadaf is an equal acquaintance. She in her full conscious had that affair with a married man. Now we don’t know whether Shahorz approached Sadaf or Sadaf approached Shahroz. If she approached, she is more at fault but if she was approached, she shares equal offence along Shahroz. She neither stepped back nor approached Syra to alert her. She willingly got involved which make her an ally.

Now there are cases where women are indeed not so sharp and get manipulated easily by married men. Well, here is a lesson for you. If a married man approaches you, step back but if you are also interested, then be straightforward with the first wife; don’t keep her in dark. Ask your man to either divorce her straightaway or take you as a second wife with the approval of the first wife (Fantasy).

And this issue is not limited to married couples; today’s relationships are also facing such filth. Don’t ruin this beautiful bond over materialism; either be loyal or leave. Don’t destruct feelings and emotions.

And kudos to Syra for being so humble and handling all this issue so elegantly. Even Shahroz deserves a pat for not defaming Syra either and I wish it remains the same. Parting ways is not a sin but should be done with dignity and humility by protecting each other’s esteem.

Mard se ziada Aurat ki Dushmen Aurat hoti hai.