The major cause of DEPRESSION that we NEVER Talk About!

There is no denying that Depression is one of the major issues in today’s world, especially amongst the youngsters. There could be dozens of reasons but there is one major reason that we never look upon. Allah made this world in its perfect shape and provided us the guidelines through His Books and Messengers so we can live at peace but no, we human beings always prefer the path of destruction because it is laced in fake glitters that humans tend to fall for. That is why Allah mentioned that this world is a place of trial which will determine the fate of your eternal life in the world hereafter.

One of the gifts from Allah towards mankind is human connection. The foundation of life on earth was laid on a couple, instead of an individual. And that couple too extended the human connection in the form of a family rather than living alone. Hazrat Adam A.S and Hazrat Hawwa A.S were sent on this earth to be the first human connection and then this connection expanded and first it took the shape of a family, then a society and then a nation.

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Today the entire world has become a Global Village. Everything is connected to one another all over the world. We can connect to someone sitting at the other side of the world with a single click. But, all these connections are artificial; we have lost the actual human connection.

Transferring from Human Connection to the artificial connection made us intolerant which lead us to extreme depression. We need actual people of different ages and expertise in our life because life has different aspects. We have parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends etc. People who are supposed to love us and we are supposed to love them back selflessly. We have different kinds of troubles and at different stages of life and we need different ears to listen them because whom you are talking to matters a lot.

Some troubles you can’t share with your old parents because it might make them worry. Some troubles you can’t share with your siblings. There might be something that you can share with a sister but not to a brother or vice versa. Sometimes you need help from your aunt. And sometimes you seek comfort in your grandparents. For some troubles; you need guidance from an elder and for some, you may need guidance or comfort from someone younger. People react differently depending on their age, gender and their relation with you so you need multiple human connections for all your inner troubles. The same parents who were strict to their children become so soft towards their grandchildren.

Human body cannot bear the burden of troubles that we keep locked inside; it has to come out but there has to be someone listening to it. Someone who can understand your situation; someone who can comfort you, show you the right path and make you feel lighter by getting all the fuss out of your body. But, we don’t like to listen the bitter truth; we expect others to butter us up. So when we share something and get negative feedback, we stop sharing and we cut off our connection because we have plenty of options now. We can be on Social Media all the time or play games or watch movies etc. So we think we don’t need human connection anymore and we can just live the life as we want; and yet, ironically; we then complain how humanity is dead. Humanity is not dead; the connection just got weaker.

Gradually, all the troubles get stacked inside us and we become a pressure cooker. We desperately want all of it to get out but now we have lost all the ears. And all those social media gurus who influenced you to live your life are not there for you. They won’t even reply to your message because they got thousands of fans; no time to reply each query. But we cut off our connection with the real people for the artificial people because these artificial people always talk what you want to hear. You can always find someone on social media who suits to your own likings; while ignoring the fact that what you think is right could actually be wrong.

A person on a video advising something does not even know you; he does not know your situation so how can he be your messiah? I am not against people on social media; it’s just that one should not blindly follow someone. Listen to the advice but then judge yourself that does that applies to your situation or not. Because everyone has a different set of life. We all have different circumstances, different neighborhood, and different resources. So a suggestion by someone on social media is not necessarily applicable on you.

I am not judging intentions; many social media stars promote good content with good intentions but my point is that no one is selfless towards you more than your own family. We write or make videos to achieve our own goals. While your family actually knows about your exact situation and can help you better; what they say might not be fruitful to your ears but it’s what you need.

I am a fat person and if I come on social media, I will find many people encouraging me to just live my life and forget about what others think about me. Well, sometimes others think good of you. My mother always says to me that if someone truly loves me, that person will never let me embrace my obesity and she is absolutely right. Even my friends who are true to me keep reminding me the consequences of being fat. Now if I start hating my family and friends for being honest to me and I rather give importance to those social media influencers who cheer me up for being fat; I am actually doing my own lose. If my obesity leads me to other medical complications; these social media people won’t pay for my bills or take me to the toilet; but my family whose words were bitter would still be there for me. Bullying is a different thing or if my obesity was due to reasons beyond my powers, then it would be a different scenario.

Today we have thousands of artificial friends but very little actual friends. We give importance to those thousands of people who won’t be there for us at the time of need. We stopped communicating with each other, we stopped making friends. I live in Middle East and it is full of bachelors. We live in sharing accommodations. This is my personal observance; before the social media era; bachelors living in these sharing accommodations were like families. Their bonding was so strong that even their families met back in Pakistan and became family friends.

Today, everyone is on its own. People living under the same roof don’t even talk to each other much. Why? Because everybody has his artificial connection. The Wifi, the social media. People choose to watch movies or videos or games rather than spending time with each other. Same happens within families; every member of the family is busy in its artificial world and artificial people.

Back in the day; we had no options so we kept our human connections intact and lived happily. We tolerated the bitterness, ignored the bad side of the people and focused on the good side because we needed them. Of course, no era is perfect but I am pretty sure that the world was much better back then.

People are not perfect; sometimes they say bitter words intentionally and sometimes unintentionally but it does not mean you should cut the cord. Actual Human connection is very important for a healthy mind.