MY JOURNEY FROM LOSING WAIT TO GAINING AGAIN

Many of you have been asking me to reduce my weight and I really appreciate it; it shows that you are genuinely concerned about me. Today’s slogan is MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS which I personally dislike; there is a difference between bullying and caring about someone. Obesity is bad and we should never make it a norm; even the celebrities who criticize others on body shaming, eventually loose weight; no one wants to live a fat life. And people encouraging others to love their obesity are actually playing evil unintentionally. Obesity leads to many complications; will these people come to the rescue? Will these people pay medical bills? We should always keep giving wake up calls to our loved ones but in a balanced way. We just have to make sure that these wake up calls don’t lead to depression. My mother always says,’ those who are encouraging you to live this unhealthy life, are actually your enemies; the ones who love you, will always want the best for you’.

People keep telling me remedies and I never mind it; be it a taxi driver or a bystander; there is always a clear difference between someone mocking you and someone who is actually concerned despite having no relation with you. Once an elderly man stopped me and advised me to follow a particular remedy and I could genuinely feel his concern through his voice; how could I hate him for being generous? I know some people go over the board in policing others which is wrong; we should always keep balance and before giving advice, we should try to understand the other person. May be someone is fat due to some medical complication and despite trying hard, he fails to loose weight.

As you can see in the image below, I lost around 40 Kgs but then gained again. And this is not the first time, I have lost and gained throughout my life; my body type makes me gain weight very quick; this comes from my mother, she is the same; though much slimmer than me. And I am fat since my childhood.

I lost these 40 KGs without going to gym. I just balanced my diet and walked. I started from 4 Km and eventually reached 8-10 KMs. I am just not a gym guy; especially if I have to do it alone (Cons of being an Introvert). But, it’s not just about diet and exercise; what I have learnt is that your health heavily depends on your mental health. Some people loose weight in stress and depression while others gain. And the most important factor in life to achieve any goal is motivation; one cannot achieve its goal without having motivation and moral support. Even prayer has motivation of asking Allah to fulfill our wishes; and that’s why the more we get rich, the more we forget Allah because we think we don’t need Him anymore. But what we forget is that Prayer is not just about asking worldly desires; it’s about asking forgiveness and to thank Allah for everything.

If you have read my articles from beginning, you must have some idea about my life. I don’t want to dig any deeper; I thank Allah for everything I have; but like every human being, I too have my problems. I have been in depression for a long time; I lack motivation, losing weight is currently at the back of my head. Like I said above, I have never embraced my fatness and that’s not because of people but for me. I am so inactive, I lack energy, I can’t enjoy things that I want to, I can’t wear what I want to and most importantly, my obesity is a huge hurdle in my marriage; and I don’t blame anyone for rejecting me, everyone has their own choices and rejecting someone like me is totally acceptable and I am totally cool with it, unless someone makes fun of me in a wrong way. After all, your life partner should be someone that makes your heart floating upon looking. And I am just not that guy.

Anyways, I wrote this post because many people were concerned and I really appreciate it. I am totally aware and I will focus on my body once my life gets a little bit on the track. This page is an attempt to curb my depression and loneliness.

Peace!